HOW TO ASK THAT DREAM GIRL OUT - V-six Ejechi

Everyone loves the idea of being in a relationship; in fact a lot of guys cannot help but have a girlfriend in some cases, girlfriends. To be on a safe side I will say we all have or have had a girl that we are having crush on, a large number of us are finding it difficult to ask a girl out for a date. The comfort of having someone who’s always at your disposal seems like a good idea. Every guy and even ladies imagine that once they start dating, but before the dating comes they must or should be an ASKING OUT. Some dude dream of that beautiful relationship (which sometimes leads to wet dreams) but they haven’t taken steps in making that dream a reality.

I might not be an absolute expert on all thing dating or relationship, but below are some few points I have used and have seen it work perfectly well.

GET TO KNOW HER: Many a time we like a girl we don’t even know, getting to know the girl you desire is very important to asking her out. This is really an obvious tip but you would be surprised how many people think they know, what they don’t know. Getting to know her does not mean scouring her twitter timeline or Facebook page or like my friend does, checking when last she came online on whatsapp or BBM- it does not even mean compiling research from all of her friends, it means taking the time out to ask her questions and to listen. You ask questions based on what you want to know, and listen to how and what she is saying. A friend will always say he does not like asking girls questions, I wonder if he will ever get to know the girl he will eventually date or ask out. Know her beyond what her friends say or what you hear.

BE CLEAR: When I mean be clear, be simple enough to drive home your point.

When you are with a girl is not the time to show that your father is Hon. Patrick Obahiagbon or Rev, Chris okotie or you had a PHD in spoken English. Communication means speaking a language that the other party can relate to, and explaining it to the simpler form. Most guys assume that the lady should understand there move, while, many a time the lady is confused on what the guy really want, so it will be for your own interest if you can be clear and don’t be that guy who is ambiguous with his intension. Drive home your point in simple English so that communication can take place between you and her.

FOCUS ON SIMILARITIES: There is a saying that opposite attract. I don’t believe that is always the case in relationship, however when you are in a conversation with a girl, don’t focus on the opposite. If you do, you will find that your conversation will become a tug-of-war to see who can top whom on whatever topic and it will eventually become boring. Instead, focus on similarities.

Similarities allows you to fully connect with one another, we can communicate and the conversation ends up in a positive turn out. For instance, I accompany a friend of mine to a girl he has been having a crush on, 30 minutes to our stay with her, I felt really frustrated and bored, as no common ground of discussion between this girl and my friend. Somehow my friend and I started talking about the movie we watch two days back, fortunately for us she has just finish watching the same movie, that drew her attention to us, she started telling us about the movie, the parts she love etc. and even after we finished discussing about the movie she continues in that spirit she had when discussing about the movie, that help us to have a fruitful visit. Find that similarities. What does she like to discuss? Find it and discuss it with her.

CATCH HER AT THE RIGHT TIME: I have heard people say there is no right time, well I have different point of view to that, there is a right time but they might not be a perfect time. A good idea presented in a bad mood, turns the idea to be bad-so timing is very important. You need to wait for an opportunity to talk to her alone. If you randomly blurt out your feeling in front of a group or in a bad mood, it could change her response in a negative way. If no such opportunities present itself naturally, make one.

BE YOURSELF: If you need to build a long lasting relationship that might possibly lend to an expected future or if you want to have peace and joy as long as the relationship goes don’t fake it. I have heard people say, you fake it to make it, sorry dude it does not work in a relationship. It’s amazing how guys tells a lot of lies just to get a girl to say a YES. Any relationship that is built on false pretense always has a disgraceful end, be simple enough, if she love you she will accept you just the way you are. I have learnt to always present my case to a lady, if she likes me good for her and if she don’t, she just lost a guy she can never get a replacement for. But please be your real self.

..AND MORE IMPORTANTLY

In the end, there are number of ways you could approach in asking your dream girl out or your crush, as the case may be, but the number one way is to stay focused on God and see where he direct your path. Trust me- GOD is the best relationship expert.

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